“Today, I marry my best friend”
It’s quite a poetic thing to say. The person we’re in love
with is also the person we we’re in like with.
Whether it’s Valentine’s Day, Superbowl Sunday or a rainy Tuesday in November, our date
is the same person.
The problem is that the numbers don’t seem to play that out.
Somewhere between 30-40% of 1st time marriages in Canada are still
ending in divorce. And it’s in the moments of break up that we find support
from our other best friends. You know - the ones who stick with us even when we
make a horrible choice.
They don’t say, “I told you so”. They help you pick up the pieces and start
over.
They are the ones you have extra grace and extra patience
for.
They are the ones you want to share your good news or a
funny joke with.
When you have a free night, they are your first call.
Cause they’re your best friends.
It’s all too common that we don’t give our spouses, the one’s
we have chosen to join our lives with, the same treatment.
- We hold
grudges, keeping score
- We find
it easy to shift blame, and hard to offer forgiveness.
- We tell
each other we just need a night out to recharge.
- We give
our best to our jobs, our hobbies and the world around us, saving what’s left
for our partners when we get home.
Some friend.
This year marked 15 years married for Amanda and I. 22 in
relationship with each other.
Over the years I continually find that the times we struggle
the most are the times when we forget that we’re best friends.
Marriage is easy. Just do it together.
- Play
together
- Cook and
clean together
- Forgive
together
- Forget
together
- Dream
together
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