-->The boss’s son gets the promotion.
The Grammy winner has a bad song played over and over on the
radio.
The all star gets the charge call & the rookie gets the
foul.
It’s a result of a culture feeling that we deserve certain
things.
I put in my time, so now I deserve something in return. It
doesn’t matter if I earned it or not.
I had coffee this morning with a friend who taught me the
story behind the black belt in martial arts. Years ago, a young martial artist
would be given one belt for their lifetime. It was white; the same as their
uniform. As they grew and trained and fought, the white belt would begin to
yellow. A more experienced fighter would then have a yellow belt compared to a
novice’s white belt. If they stayed at it for years, and learned the lessons
through training and competition, their belt would become increasingly darker
and tattered as a badge of honour. Only a true life long learner of the martial
arts would ever have a “black belt” Now it’s like swimming lessons. I passed last
year so I guess I’m a black belt this year. We have 16 years olds claiming to
masters simply because they were given bright new belts every year. Replacing
what was once a natural fluid process of progression with easy
“paint-by-number” kind of steps.
I think all too often we treat life this way. We feel that
we always deserve more, deserve the next level. And if we complete steps A-B-C
we get there. But more often than not, I think life was designed to be more fluid,
a natural progression, only getting our ultimate reward towards the end.
We don’t need the boss to give us the promotion at work. We
simply work our way to becoming the leader of others. People want to come to us
as a resource because we’ve proven ourselves with years of success, failures
and perseverance.
A real music lover doesn’t care what award you’ve won. They
listen for skill on an instrument and passion in a song. Traits that only come
with pure devotion to music, experimentation in genres and years of trial and
error in songwriting.
As for the bad call in the basketball… well that’s just
always going to happen to the Raptors. At least the made the play-offs.
I think it’s time we stopped looking for our next little
reward, and became more OK with simply allowing life to reward us in due time.
Thanks for the coffee and the life lesson this morning my friend
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